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Melissa Curtin covers charity and style related events and loves to cover LA's best in beauty, fashion, and culture. She is an educator who recently returned to the classroom to motivate and inspire third graders at a private school in Pacific Palisades. In 2012, she launched an educational T-shirt line called Wear2learn. When she is not working out, hiking a canyon, or at the beach, she is writing. Her latest dream come true has been travel writing for Johnny Jet.

After teaching in the Maryland public school system for almost a decade, she left the conservative East Coast environment in Washington, DC for West Coast living. Eager for adventure, inner growth, and a new environment, she packed her car and took to the open road on her own landing in her new home - Hollywood, California. As a Connecticut Yankee at heart, she has now lived in Los Angeles for six years surrounded by the stars.

Melissa graduated from Gettysburg College with a double major in psychology and art history. Soon after, she earned a Master's Degree in education. Melissa traveled around the world on Semester at Sea, and earned a Fulbright Scholarship which enabled her to teach in England. A lust for travel and learning has fueled her globe trotting ever since. Some of her favorite destinations are Costa Rica, Thailand, Fiji, Morocco, Vietnam, Belgium, Italy, Sicily, Prague, Egypt, Australia, Greece, and Paris.

Los Angeles has won over her heart. She is constantly taking advantage of what LA LA Land has to offer - new boutiques and restaurants, finding great deals, discovering new hikes and beaches, music, and West Coast fashion.

Aging Brilliantly By Oprah In O, The Oprah Magazine

May issue of O, Oprah's magazine

May issue of O, Oprah’s magazine

O, The Oprah Magazine’s May issue hits newsstands on April 16th and the theme of the issue is all about aging brilliantly. Oprah shares what she knows for sure about age, about accepting where you are in life, and loving your age. I once had someone post on my Facebook wall: Happy Birthday! It’s better than the alternative. That really made me think. In most places age and getting older as a woman is considered the worst – the clay is drying, you are getting uglier, and your best years are over. As I approach 39 I dread this notion that America has put on aging women.  I surely don’t feel my age, nor do I act like what I would use to think a typical 38 year old should behave like. LA, I believe has kept me young at heart and spirit.  After reading Oprah’s “What I know for Sure” page below, I will think again when I dread my upcoming birthday and perhaps embrace the years I’ve had.

“What I Know for Sure” by Oprah

The table next to me was making a lot of noise, celebrating a special occasion—five waiters singing “Happy birrrrrthday, dear Marilyn…,” and our side of the room applauding as Marilyn blew out the single candle on the chocolate cupcake she’d been presented with. Someone asked if I’d take a picture with the group.

“Sure,” I said, and casually asked, “How old is Marilyn?” to no one in particular.

The whole table laughed nervously. One person said in mock outrage, “I can’t believe you’re asking that!”

Marilyn ducked her head modestly and told me, “I dare not say.”

I was at first amused, then taken aback. “You want a picture honoring your birthday, but you don’t want to say how old you are?”

“Well, I don’t want to say it out loud. I’ve been a wreck for weeks knowing this day was coming. It just makes me sick to think about it.”

“It makes you sick to think that you’ve marked another year, that every worry, every strife, every challenge, every delight, every breath every day was leading to this mo- ment, and now you made it and you’re cele- brating it—with one little candle—and denying it at the same time?”

“I’m not denying it,” she said. “I just don’t want to be 43.”

I gasped in mock horror: “You’re 43? Oh my, I see why you wouldn’t want anyone to know that.” Everyone laughed that nervous laughter again.

We took the picture, but I didn’t stop thinking about Marilyn and her friends and their web of untruths.

Living in the moment: Taking the stage in Houston last year.

Recently, on Super Soul Sunday, I talked with Don Miguel Ruiz, author of one of my favorite books, The Four Agreements. According to Don Miguel Ruiz, “95% of the beliefs we have stored in our minds are nothing but lies, and we suffer because we believe all these lies.” One of these lies that we believe and practice and reinforce is that getting older is getting uglier. We then judge ourselves and others, trying to hold on to the way we were.

To the point, I would add, of “being sick” about turning 43.

(By the way, Marilyn, most of us are just hitting our stride in our 40s, ready to break out into our real selves.)

I’m well aware that trying to stay fresh and current can be a challenge, especially if you live a lot of your life in public view. Of course I want to look my best. I want to feel strong and vibrant. But I know for sure that the pathway to your best life isn’t the route of denial. It’s owning every moment. Staking a claim in right now. And, with gratitude, embracing the age you are.

So I’m embracing the age I am…59. And I’m looking forward to the next step of the journey.

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