“The Notebook” wasn’t the only love story playing on the big screen at Full Moon Drive-In in San Diego last Saturday. Before the feature film got rolling at this Pacific Beach theater, a short video began to play. The film showed a man asking a couple parents for their daughter’s hand in marriage, much to the surprise of that young woman, who was in the crowd for what she thought was a “girls night out.”
As the screen went dark, spotlights revealed an audience of family and friends sitting in the front row lounge. Music began to play as the group broke into a dance, leading the way to the car where the unsuspecting “bride to be” was sitting. A rose petal path was laid out as the woman was led to her boyfriend, who dropped to one knee and popped the question. Teary eyed, she said yes!
My question to readers is this: Do you LOVE seeing this type of creative proposal, and hope to one day be honored with one? Or do you think this practice is becoming a bit over the top because a proposal should be a quiet, private moment between two people?
From flash mobs to overly orchestrated and showy public proposals, the media clearly loves the more grandiose style, but for many future grooms, this option is just not a fit. Not all couples want to be the center of attention during this type of intimate moment. Media coverage of these publicity-seeking couples can cause more introverted grooms to feel pressure about measuring up.
My advice is this: do what feels appropriate and reflects your personality as a couple. The public fanfare is lots of fun to watch, but it isn’t the correct method of proposal for every couple.