Starting at a young age, a little girl dreams about her wedding day. She may have a vision of her bouquet, her gown, and even her groom, but what is usually missing or what changes with age is who her maid of honor will be. Inviting your girlfriends to be a part of your bridal party is an exciting time for everybody, but it can also lead to a stressful situation. Many women have a hard time determining which close friend to place as their maid of honor. A maid of honor should certainly not be chosen lightly because while it is a true honor, it is also a large responsibility. A maid of honor should be a dedicated and hard working friend who is willing and able to be your right hand gal and emotional confidant during the entire wedding planning process.
Some women have two friends that fall into these categories and they stress about choosing one over the other. It can be a tricky situation when two friends “expect” to be dubbed with the special honor. This is why you must make it clear to each of them the reasons why you are placing them in the bridal party position that you choose. Maybe one of your friends has a hectic job and you feel she couldn’t be there for you quite like the other could, or maybe you connect better emotionally with one over the other. There are a million reasons why you value each of your friends, and by sharing this with them it will alleviate possible hurt feelings and will more than likely strengthen your friendships.
If you continue to worry that picking one friend over the other will cause an all out war and possibly ruin your friendship, you have other alternatives. One being to simply eliminate the “maid of honor” title and have all bridesmaids; and the other to have two maids of honor, no one ever said a girl can’t have two best friends. Just remember at the end of it all, you are marrying your true best friend and it cannot get better than that!