Do you remember the first time you went on a date with your husband? What did he order? What did he say that made you laugh or made you wonder about his life before you? How did you feel when he looked at you intently and curiously? I remember so many details about my first date with my husband. When I first got into the car, he told me that I looked dressed up, and he looked down at his T-shirt and flip flops, embarrassed. At the coffee shop, I was so nervous, I barely took a sip of my cappuccino. He spoke the whole time, about all of his adventures of driving across the country. I was so inspired by his desire to see and do new things. I was immediately attracted to his smile, and every time he laughed or gestured, I got a whiff of his cologne. It was hypnotizing. When he dropped me off at home at the end of the date, I had trouble getting our front door to open. It was so embarrassing. Later, he told me that he found that to be adorable.
I’m sure it’s not hard for you to think back on those first few months or years of dating before your relationship became serious. You probably have many fond memories like mine. Don’t they make you smile and wish you could live it all over again? Well, who says you can’t? It’s important to refine your relationship with your spouse by spending time with one another and being in tune with one anothers’ needs and desires even with the chaos of a house bustling with children. Taking care of the kids is tiring and drains you not only of energy, but of interest for your spouse. In the midst of it all, we forget to communicate with our spouses, and care for them. We forget the things that drew us to one another in the first place.
Fall in love with your spouse all over again by keeping each other in the know. Take the time to remember your husband’s weird habits or quirks that you found charming when you first met. What does he do that sparks your curiosity? Then think about what keeps him interested in you. It’s important to make sure your husband still feels desired and that he’s important to you. Designate some time each day, putting your fatigue aside, to talk to one another about your day. Encourage him to tell you what frustrated him, what he found funny, what new things he learned or tried, and then tell him about your day. Practice listening to one another, and be involved in each other’s daily lives. This ten minutes of conversation will keep you both updated about one another’s lives amidst your busy schedules. And just maybe, you will fall in love with one another all over again, just like it was in the beginning.