The Perfect Mother-of-the-Bride or -Groom Dress

April 11th, 2011

Dear Miss A,

My wedding is coming up in about 6 months, and my mother and soon to be mother-in-law have yet to buy a dresses. They are coming to DC in a few weeks so we can shop together. We have gone back and forth on colors, and to be very honest, I’m dreading their visit and this part of the wedding planning. Do you have any recommendations on places to shop in the DC area or ideas for what might be appropriate for a mother-of-the-bride or groom?

Thanks,

September Bride

Dear September Bride,

Thank you so much for writing in with your question. I have been there, and I know it’s not easy to come to an agreement on what the mothers will wear. Just as it’s a big day for you, it is a big day for each of the mothers, so do try to keep this in mind. They will play a big role acting as hostess to their guests, walking down the aisle, and will pose in many photos. Be happy that they are at least consulting you on what they wear, as some do not, and I don’t think that is right. The mother-of-the-groom should allow your mother to choose her dress first, so I’m not sure what you’re going to do if they each gravitate toward the same dress while you’re out shopping. Hopefully, your soon to be mother-in-law will stand back and let your mother take the lead. The mother-of-the-groom’s dress should be similar in length as that of the mother-of-the-bride, but should not be the same color. It’s tough selecting the right dress as you want them to look their best – elegant, age appropriate, and beautiful. You don’t want them to dress too young, sexy and revealing, but you don’t want them looking matronly and feeling like they look old. It’s quite a task, especially depending on height

and body type. You will want each mother to look unique, so don’t have them match the bridesmaids. Actually, having their dresses in a contrasting color is a nice idea. Be sure to consider the skin tone of the mothers, as not all colors look great on all complexions. The length of the dress will depend on time of day, and the formality of the wedding you are planning.

The fashion designer who hits all the marks for mother-of-the-bride and groom is Rickie Freeman for Teri Jon. Their dresses arestylish, sophisticated, flattering, and appropriate. I would go to Saks Fifth Avenue and Neiman Marcus in both the Chevy Chase, and Tyson’s Corner locations so you can see as much as possible. You can also shop online at www.terijon.com. Use the promo code ASKMISSA and you will receive 10% off your purchase. For full disclosure, Teri Jon is an advertiser of mine, but I wouldn’t partner with them if I didn’t love what they do. I have worn Teri Jon for years, and am very selective and honest about what I like. So take a look online and in the stores, and please write back and let me know what you all decide on! Good luck with the moms!