Facebook Infidelity
19. Nov, 2009 
4 Comments
I would like to share a new Facebook experience with my readers. I receive messages on Facebook all the time. Some are from women. Some are from men. Some are from married men. Usually not a big deal.
A Facebook friend started commenting on my status updates a lot, and then started messaging me. Again, not a big deal. I had no idea who he was, as I have a lot of Facebook friends who are my online friends, but not necessarily friends who I see out and about. His profile photo was a photo with a woman. I checked his profile page to figure out who he was, what mutual friends we have and saw that the woman in his profile photo was his wife. He continued messaging me, and recently sent me a message asking if I ever get up to NYC. He doesn’t live there, but goes there for business or something a lot, and wanted me to come up to NYC so he could take me out. I wasn’t attracted to him and knew he was married, so I didn’t respond.
So I’m at dinner with Guy Friday last night, and I see a new Facebook message. Something about how badly this man wants me, and intimate details of his sexual prowess, and whatnot. At first, I thought the X-rated message was from the guy. Then, I realized it was from his WIFE. She had hacked into his Facebook account and seen his messages to me. What I loved most was her assumption that I wanted this guy. She wrote all this ridiculous X-rated stuff, and told me I could have him and that she was getting a divorce.
Now, I have written about emotional affairs online, but that’s not what this was. I was only the object of his interest and received messages from him. There was no back and forth — very one-sided. I am sure I would be upset if I were in this woman’s situation, but her email to me was completely psycho. I don’t know if she was messaging to tell me that her man was married, which I knew, or if she was telling me I could have him, which was the gist of her x-rated rant.
Ladies, no need to go off on another woman who isn’t even interested in your man. If your man is trying to arrange a rendevous with another woman, confront him. And men, if you’re going to try to use Facebook for cheating it’s probably best not to use a photo of you and your wife as your profile picture. I decided to unfriend him. By the way, “unfriend” is New Oxford American Dictionary’s Word of the Year, and now I know why! The irony of all this is that I’ve been practicing abstinence for almost two years now, and am still getting sucked into crazy drama like this!
Lady, if you are reading this, please know that I don’t do leftovers or potbellied old men. As Ivana said, don’t get mad, get everything! I wish you the best!
- Miss A
Andrea, you were made an unwitting (and unwilling) participant. These two people dragged you into the middle of their “quarrel”, you might say, not unlike the way it used to be back before there was ever any email, facebook, text messaging, etc…. the interesting thing is that fads come and go, and there are new inventions – especially technologically – and new ideas, all the time, but……human nature never changes.
Obviously this couple deserve each other. The man had no class, that’s a given. But the wife upstaged him by being even worse. It would have been far better – if you ask me – for her to save all the printout (black and white) evidence she could (certainly print out those emails he had written to you), and consult a lawyer while continuing to play the “wifely” game. This would lull him into complacency from which she could collect even MORE evidence. He would then have given himself enough rope to hang himself by.
Pack up her bags, serve him his papers and shake the dirt off of her feet as she steps away from a world she has no need for.
Class.
Instead she attacks you.
No class.
Some people will never learn. Work smarter, not harder. Keep the emotion out of it.
Elzbth
I’m so sorry you got into a mess like this! LOL! But seriously, those two need to work things among themselves! What a marriage!
you don’t do leftovers? what does that mean – no divorced men?
It is psycho to have someone listed as a ‘friend’ on Facebook if you do not care who they are. If you did not want this man, why not ignore his desire to be a ‘friend’ to you? You chose to do this, so you are lying. You wanted something from this guy. This man’s wife was not psycho, you are. You have lots of guy ‘friends’ and you have a Guy Friday, and then in the middle of your date you check Facebook as if it is important? You are a nuts, and you rationalize this by criticizing the wife. You need help.