Driving Me Crazy
10. Nov, 2009 
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Dear Miss A,
I meet a wonderful man a month a go, and we get along very well. I just know he is the man for me. The problem is we live a distance away from each other and I guess its becoming a problem, he would call me every day but now I don’t hear from him as much, he gave me the impression that he liked me a lot. I feel so relaxed when I’m around him he constantly compliments me which is such a plus, because I didn’t get that at all from my last relationship I was involved with someone who was verbally abusive. At this point a think I should just give up on him, even though I don’t want to. He only lives an hour away. I didn’t think that was such a big deal, we both work different hours have different days off but I was willing to make an effort. He has a car I don’t. My female friends thinks I should meet him half way, and my male friends thinks that he has the transportation that he should come see me. The last time I spoke to him he had stressed how much he wants to see me. Even though I don’t know him that well there is a lot that we have in common.
Confused
Dear Confused,
Actions speak louder than words. This guy probably does like you, and he likes you enough to have you come see him, but apparently he doesn’t like you enough to put forth the effort to come to you. I think it’s actually cruel that he’s using transportation as an excuse, because that just makes you think that if you had a car things would be different. Don’t feel bad about not having transporation, because Honey he doesn’t sound like he’s worth the gas money! Relationships take two people putting forth effort. If you want a one-sided relationship where you are always the one doing all the work, while he just enjoys the fun aspects of the relationship, then go for it. I think deep down you know you deserve better, and if it wasn’t bothering you, you wouldn’t have written me. There is a man out there who will be willing to put forth great efforts for you. Take a listen to this song, and realize you can and will do better. And remember to watch what a man does, and not to get swept away with compliments, flattery and talk. Talk is cheap.
- Miss A
Andrea Rodgers has been in Washington for over a decade, and is well-known for giving back to the local community. She has co-founded three major fundraisers - Blondes vs. Brunettes in 2005, The Courage Cup where she serves as President in 2006, and Fashion for Paws in 2007. In September 2008, Andrea launched two businesses — AskMissA.com, and Socialite Marketing, a full-service boutique marketing firm that provides businesses and brands with social media, public relations, marketing, and event planning services. She attended boarding school at Salem Academy, and graduated from Wake Forest University with a double major in Economics and Politics. Rodgers was recently hand picked by Vogue magazine to be a founding member of The Vogue 100, an organization "of influential decision makers and opinion leaders known for their distinctive taste in fashion and culture, [and who] personify the rising influence of women over the past several decades."
This post gets the Critiquette seal of approval for two reasons: First, I’ve been down this road on more than one occasion (I can TOO learn from my mistakes! I just like to scientifically test my hypothesis! The first time could have been a fluke!) and Miss A is right. A guy who won’t do at least fifty percent of the traveling is not one who values you the way you deserve to be valued. Second, The Proclaimers “I’m Gonna Be” is one of my all-time favorite songs. In fact, I was listening to it on repeat for like an hour on Sunday night. I was testing my hypothesis that it’s awesome.