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Andrea Rodgers is the Founder of Miss A (AskMissA.com), which covers the intersection of charity and lifestyle for 1.5 million unique readers annually. Based in Washington, DC, Miss A has a presence in 21 U.S. cities with 30 editors and hundreds of writer. Andrea was inspired after 9/11, and became heavily involved in Washington’s charity circuit in an effort to give back to the community. At the core of the Miss A brand is Andrea’s personal belief in the positive power of volunteering and charity — not only to benefit those less fortunate, but to improve the individual, business or brand that gives their time, money and energy to a cause. AskMissA.com serves as a technological platform which connects editors, writers and readers around this core belief and shines a spotlight on the best nonprofits, charity events, cause marketing campaigns and philanthropic & stylish people, businesses and brands to inspire others to get involved.

Andrea Rodgers is a member of the Vogue 100, a hand-selected group by Vogue magazine of 100 influential decision makers and opinion leaders across the country known for their distinctive taste in fashion & culture. She has been featured in Vogue, W and Allure, CNN, Fox News, NOS Dutch Public Broadcasting, TV Tokyo, France 24, Alhurra, USA Today, Washington Post & Politico.

How to Social Climb

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Dear Miss A,

I recently moved to a large east coast city, and am interested in getting involved in the charity circuit. I really want to meet the movers and shakers and the fashionable set of my town, which seem to be involved in doing service. I am already a member of the Junior League, so I know that will be a good place to start once it gets going. Do you suggest I just go to events alone until I meet people? Where do I start?

Thanks!

New to Town

Dear New to Town,

So you want to meet the “Movers and Shakers” and the “Fashionable Set” in the “Charity Circuit”, huh? Are you really sure this is something you want to do?  There is always a fresh new crop of people who get eaten alive, and fall victim to men who have become infamous for preying on naive new women in town, or who want so badly to meet certain people in town that they come off as a social climber and turn everyone off. Please keep in mind that the grass isn’t always greener! The quietly charitable, somewhat fashionable and those who move, but don’t shake are great people, too! What you think you want — may not be what you need. So don’t dismiss out-of-hand joining a kickball league, watching football at a sports bar, or going to a dive bar to hear a local band.

In this age of social media, I would think you’d know someone in town, or have a friend who knows someone in this new town who you can get to know and who would be willing to introduce you to their crowd. I strongly advise that you meet people the “old fashioned”, organic way, rather than seeing people in a local magazine, deciding they should be your new BFF, and stalking them on Facebook.

If you really must be among the “Fashionable Set” in the “Charity Circuit” it’s pretty simple. Three words of advice: Join, Attend, Buy. Join lots of clubs and organizations. Attend as many charity and fashionable events as possible. Buy people drinks, coffee, dinner, cab rides, and buy yourself cocktail dresses, ball gowns, and shop your heart out at all the magazine sponsored and other shopping events.  Unlike other sets in your new city, the fashionable set is by its very nature, a pretty superficial bunch, so it doesn’t take a whole lot to impress. You don’t have to be a rocket scientist – just be beautiful and spend money. It’s much more difficult to reach the true “Movers and Shakers” – they are more cerebral, and busy working and traveling, and don’t have much time for nonsense.

I hope this is somewhat helpful, and again I really hope you make real friends naturally through work, or through your alumni club and friends from home.

– Miss A

P.S. New to Town wrote back on August 20th – see what she wrote!

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