Dear Miss A,
I had been talking to my friend’s friend over msn and facebook a lot, and then I finally met him. We really hit it off, and I started to like him. I had been talking to my friend that introduced us, and apparantly he said he’d date me. According to a few of my other friends that have been talking to him, he said he likes me and wants to ask me out. After we met, he has been talking to me less and hasn’t asked me out.
Some people that I have talked to have said that I should let him know that I like him, (not necessarily directly)but I’m not sure how to do that, especially since I only talk to him over msn.
I have to say this sounds like Junior High stuff to me. Men and women like their privacy. I think you should stop talking to everyone who will listen about how you have a crush on this guy. Men hate women who talk too much. Since you are already consulting everyone around you about your crush on him and how to win a date with him, I’m sure he is assuming you would continue this behavior if he were to get into an intimate relationship with you. This is a huge turnoff. Honestly, you’ve only chatted with him online, so you don’t even really know him to be so obsessed with him. So talk less, and sit back and let him make the moves. Don’t contact him on MSN. Don’t call him. Don’t walk up to him.
After you’ve stopped contacting him and stopped talking about him, he may wonder if you’ve lost interest, and that’s fine. Hopefully, he will reach out to you and ask you on a proper date. If not, let it go. It takes two to have a relationship. If he’s doesn’t ask you out, he isn’t that into you.
Women are able to take the lead in other areas of life, but unfortunately we can’t take the lead in love. The man has to “wear the pants” and drive the relationship. Unless of course, you’re into men who “wear the skirt” and let you walk all over him. So relax, and see who comes to you.
– Miss A