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Andrea Rodgers is the Founder of Miss A (AskMissA.com), which covers the intersection of charity and lifestyle for 1.5 million unique readers annually. Based in Washington, DC, Miss A has a presence in 21 U.S. cities with 30 editors and hundreds of writer. Andrea was inspired after 9/11, and became heavily involved in Washington’s charity circuit in an effort to give back to the community. At the core of the Miss A brand is Andrea’s personal belief in the positive power of volunteering and charity — not only to benefit those less fortunate, but to improve the individual, business or brand that gives their time, money and energy to a cause. AskMissA.com serves as a technological platform which connects editors, writers and readers around this core belief and shines a spotlight on the best nonprofits, charity events, cause marketing campaigns and philanthropic & stylish people, businesses and brands to inspire others to get involved.

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The Corny Carnation

Dear Miss A,

Why do girls dislike carnations? I bought what I thought was a lovely bouquet of pink carnations for my girlfriend since it felt like Spring today. But before I could give them to her, I ran into my girlfriend’s roommate on the way in the building, and she laughed at me. What’s wrong with carnations? Shouldn’t they just be appreciative of the thought?

Floral-ly Confused

Dear Floral-ly Confused,

I commend you for being so sweet and thoughtful to pick up flowers for your lady on a pretty spring day! I think that’s marvelous! I agree that the gesture should be enough, and that women should be appreciative of any gift they are given, especially by the man who loves them.

That said, pop culture has sort of branded the carnation as the cheesy flower pinned to lapels of powder blue tuxedos worns to prom decades ago. They were very popular in the past, and I’m sure they’ll be popular again. But for now, they are seen as a “filler flower” –a flower mixed in with other flowers like the Iris, Lily or Rose, which take center stage. Because of this, when a woman receives a carnation, she feels second best. She feels she wasn’t valued enough to be given a “real flower”.

I remember when I was working at PeopleSoft, and I passed by the reception desk and saw that someone had received carnations. I asked the receptionist whose they were, and then brought them to one of my good friends. She was mortified. Instead of making her day, her boyfriend had completely embarrassed her. She began questioning his taste level, and wondered if their different backgrounds would pose a real problem.

I definitely agree with your girlfriend’s roommate. I hope that my explanation makes sense. Perhaps, it’s just a girl thing. If you don’t want to spend a great deal of money, try sunflowers, or tulips, but NEVER carnations.

– Miss A

Andrea Rodgers is a Dating & Relationship Expert for HealthCentral’s SexualHealthConnection.com. Email your questions to missa@askmissa.com or use our anonymous form.

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