January 27th, 2009 
Mr. Big played by Chris Noth in Sex & The City
My loyal readers know that my fictional character crush is Mr. Big, in addition to Rhett Butler. HBO’s description of Mr. Big says, “Mr. Big. The name says it all. From the moment he came onto the scene, he was larger than life, dashingly handsome, and oh-so unattainable.” Unattainable? Scarlett’s love was unattainable for Rhett Butler. Perhaps there is a pattern here? Hmm…I will have to explore that. Anyhow, we love men! And we hate men! It’s so hard for men and women to communicate because men and women are so different. But at the same time, it’s wonderful that we are so different. It just makes it a lifelong challenge.
Well, I was reading some local blogs this evening, and stumbled upon one by Roosh V, which probably makes it harder for men and women to connect in any meaningful way, but makes it a lot easier for them to connect sexually. Roosh used to write a He says/She says style blog, but is now an author having written a book called what else — Bang!
His blog is written for the guys, and basically tells them how to get laid and move on to the next woman. Well, just like terrorists read our Army Field Manual, I suggest that women read websites like Roosh V’s to see what tactics men may be trying to use. I read his take on “The Fast Kiss” where he writes:
I’m extremely reluctant to get a number from a girl who I don’t at least come pretty close to kissing since I’d have to invest a minimum of two whole dates to get the bang. Honestly, what percentage of girls out there are actually bearable to hang out with for several hours of time that two dates entail? 2%? 4% tops? Don’t be bamboozled into spending time with a worthless chick, which is safe to say every chick you will talk to this year except one, two if you’re lucky.
This is why I go for the kiss even if I don’t think I will get it. So the girl senses I’m about to make a move because I’m getting closer to her face and then gently pulls back—big deal. But now she knows what I’m about and if she goes out with me (and she will if she sticks around), it’s as if she has signed a legal document accepting all the moves I may choose to do, including any attempt to weasel my way back into her place.
This guy has no moral compass, and no conscience to speak of. Women are “holes”. Sex with women is a notch, and if you happen to be international, you’re a “flag”. If you read his blog you will know what the lowest of the low are thinking, and then you’ll be prepared for the worst and hopefully not fall victim to any of their tricks. The main thing you’ll see is that most women are “worthless” not being worthy of taking out on real dates because they aren’t hot and they are too annoying. Who does this guy think he is? Does he think he’s hot? It’s unbelievable. Bottomline, if a guy doesn’t put forth the effort you deserve he’s most likely not interested in you –he’s after easy sex. Dating isn’t easy, so prepare yourselves! Remember, all is fair in love and war!
- Miss A
Roosh seems like a gentleman compared to Roissy in DC: http://roissy.wordpress.com/
The real fireworks are in the comments. I’m a woman and a psychologist by training, but I learned a lot about men there!
Why are you hating on the guy? He’s not being deceptive, manipulative, or evil…he just knows what he wants, puts it out there and if the girl is agreeable, she’ll go out with him. I’ve never heard of the guy, but it seems overly judgmental to tag him with the adjectives that you did without knowing him or what contributions he has made to society outside of dating life. He might be an overly horny philanthropist.
So what if he’s sowing his oats and is only after sex? So what if he’s extremely busy and doesn’t have 2 nights to spare when he can determine if she’s what he wants in 2 minutes.
You should applaud that his actions indicate his motives (a slut) rather than waste the girl’s time with false expectations of wanting a relationship or love. There’s nothing wrong with only wanting physicality at certain stages of life.
With all due respect, you seem somewhat bitter for a “relationship expert”.
“if a guy doesn’t put forth the effort you deserve he’s most likely not interested in you –he’s after easy sex.”
96-98% of girls deserve absolutely no effort for sex. In fact, the man should be paid to bed them
Roosh belongs to a secret society of pick up artists. They study the ways of seduction much like a martial artist studies karate. To send out a warning to women to be wary of them is futile. They know what attracts ladies, hone their skills like a salesman does and employs them. You really have no idea there being done on you either. To be wary of them will only make you weird and dateless. As they say in Star Trek, resistance is futile.
[...] blogger I’ve never heard of before, “Miss A,” recently blasted me on her blog in All Is Fair In Love And War. Here’s what she said: [Roosh] has no moral compass, and no conscience to speak of. Women are [...]
Miss M, do you really enjoy spending time with every man that you meet? I think that 2-4% is generous. Maybe 4% of women in the world are hot enough to be my girlfriend. Far less than 1% of women are smart enough to be my girlfriend. The overlap of these is very small.
Contrary to popular/societal belief, you don’t always have to trick women into having sex with you to get laid without dating them. Despite the fact that any woman can go out any night and have sex with the first person she’s interested in, women still remain completely sexually frustrated because of women like you who perpetuate this idea that sex is something that should only take place in the context of a relationship.
I personally prefer to be in a relationship with the right woman to being single, but I still love being single and have sexual needs to satisfy even when I’m single. If I don’t think that a woman is relationship material I don’t trick her into thinking that I do see her that way (e.g. I will cut off conversational threads that are too emotional or involve future plans). Then again, I’ve always found that my best relationships started passionately, not as friends.
Women have these needs too… As a man all you really have to do is convey that you’re non-judgmental and understand that women have these urges, giving her permission to express that side of herself. For example, early on in an interaction I’ll often tell a girl, “I can tell that you’re the type of woman who gets really uninhibited and sexually aggressive around a guy that you like.” I’ll also throw in things that imply that I’m non-judgmental and not going to spread her business around town.
These are examples of truisms that are in fact true about everyone. Rather than tricking a girl, I’m actually liberating that side of her which she keeps hidden deep inside her 99% of the time. It won’t work every time, but I’m screening for the girls who it will work for because those are the type of women who I like spending time with, long term or short term.
Prior to childbirth, every ounce of the human body and mind is designed to facilitate reproduction (or survival for the sake of reproducing). The fact that you insist on fighting that urge means that you’re weak and care too much about what other people think.
Oh, look! Hammer left you & I THE SAME COMMENT. Must be his standard reply to any pretty woman with a brain. Look at how he treats the ladies who fall into his overlap…
[...] blogger I’ve never heard of before, “Miss A,” recently blasted me on her blog in All Is Fair In Love And War. Here’s what she said: [Roosh] has no moral compass, and no conscience to speak of. Women are [...]