Dear Miss A,
I’ve been seeing a wonderful guy for a couple of months, and we just recently became exclusive. The problem is I’m not sure how to handle dating him during the upcoming holidays. I’m excited to have him in my life, but don’t want to scare him away. I wasn’t sure if I should invite him to my office holiday party, or what would be an appropriate Christmas gift, since we haven’t been dating that long. I’m so happy to have him in my life, and I’ve thought of some great gift ideas but at the same time, I’m nervous about doing too much and freaking him out. Help! I really need some advice to get through the next few months without pushing him away.
Dear Nervous Noelle,
Relax and enjoy! Be happy you aren’t single during the holidays! It can be a very lonely time. Even though you’ve been dating for a relatively short time, you’re in a committed relationship, so I think it’s very appropriate for you to invite him to your company holiday party. Just make sure your company is allowing everyone to bring a date, because many companies aren’t allowing guests as a way of cutting back on costs.
As for a gift, I think you should spend less than you would for someone you’ve dated or a year or more, but spend more than you would on someone you’ve dated casually. So nothing over the top, but still something nice. If you have had a serious boyfriend in the past who bought you nice things for the holidays, don’t be disappointed if you’re new guy doesn’t buy you a nice piece of jewelry or something. Remember, it’s too early for you to expect that level of gift from him. So don’t get your hopes up!
You didn’t mention this in your question, but I wanted to mention that I think it’s too early in your relationship for you to bring him home for the holidays, and don’t be upset if he doesn’t invite you over to meet his family. In my opinion, meeting the family is appropriate after six months of exclusive dating.
I hope this helps! Happy Holidays!
– Miss A
Andrea Rodgers is a Dating & Relationship Expert for HealthCentral’s Sexual Health Connection. Email questions to firstname.lastname@example.org.