Being Miss A
14. Oct, 2008 
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Well, it’s been interesting the past couple of days. First, I received an email from my ex-fiance’s ex-fiance who until she read my recent post wasn’t aware that the 3-carat ring she received was the same one my ex-fiance purchased for me from Blue Nile in 2004.
Then after posting about how I was considering taking a 7 year friendship to the next level with a new guy, I received an email from a woman who saw my post. Apparently the new guy is still seeing her.
I’ve put myself in the public eye, and I guess this comes with the territory. I thank both these women for reaching out to me to give me better insight into men who have been in my life.
Suffice it to say, that I am glad I found out what I did about the latest guy very early on, and that I am now back to being single and focusing on my career and charity work.
Hopefully one day I will find a good man. As for now, I look forward to living alone sans drama.
- Miss A
wow Miss A, that’s one shady ex fiance. Just a suggestion, I just dealt with my ex-fiance after our break up recetly I decided to sel the engagement ring he gave me to http://www.idonowidot.com. So def. tell your ex-fiance’s ex fiance to sell the ring to that site. That way at least there’s some closure…don’t worry. we’ll all find mr. right. I’m still looking too!
It’s amazing how much drama a man can add to a woman’s life. Sometimes you have to weed through the losers but in the mean time just go back to being a single drama-free woman and the right one will come along.
Miss A,
I’ve known you and loved you for years. (Many, many years!) Here’s the greater good here: when you shared the news of your broken engagement, and even the drama that has now followed, you shared something far greater: engagements can be, and are broken. When my engagement was broken, I was convinced that I was the only woman in the world to whom that had happened. I was mortified and terribly depressed. It was only after my engagement was broken that I learned of others, who in quiet moments, shared their own broken engagement stories with hushed voices and the presumption of confidentiality.
Thank you for your vulnerability because it allows other women in tough relationships to know that engagements can (and sometimes should) end. I am so thankful mine ended, or I would never have met my true life partner, nor would I have our two, beautiful boys!
Oh, and my engagement ended in our Pastor’s office during a pre-marital counseling session when he stated to the Pastor, “I want to ask for the ring back”. Wish I’d know I could have kept it, given the promise back instead and sold it on the web!
Wow – quite a week, eh? Men are all dogs, but some of us have a better handle on our “dogdom” than others.
I suggest you add him to the website, ‘Don’t Date Him Girl.com’. Shady!
I have been receiving e-mails from my cousin who absolutely adores your blog because it speaks volumes to her. I would normally just put the e-mails checked “to read later,” but I admit that most of the time I am simply too busy during my work week to do so. Today was different. I decided during my lunch break to read this one post and I have to say to you: I really do know how you feel. I have been seeing a person who’s company works intimately with the one I have been employed with for the past 12 years. Although our romance has been over for over 2 years, I find it extremely difficult to get over him. You see the one thing that I did (that I know is foolish) was extend my hand in friendship to him thereby getting him “off the hook” sort of speak. He was seeing myself and a girl who worked as a copywriter in another department, but same company as myself. When all of this happened, she knew my relationship with him since we were good friends. After she left to work for a competitor, I still had a working relationship with her (now) fiance. I don’t know how to shake him from my life. I have tried to “pull the trigger” and refer him to another person in my position, but I felt that if I did, I would never hear from him again. Yes, I am the biggest fool of all. I am in a prominent position in the company, yet something that I feel is as elementary as this seems impossible to solve. This is deeply personal as I have not been able to establish a real relationship since him. I know I must move on, but I simply don’t know how. If you ever go on vacation and see that one single woman sipping on some Pinot Grigio and nibbling on a piece of cheesecake, that would be someone like me. I just thought I would let this out because frankly, I have been keeping it inside of me for a long time…I have not even been able to fully divulge my feelings to my psychologist and I have been seeing him for over 2 years now. Anyway, if you have read this far, then I thank you. At least someone out there knows about my situation…and that although others may view it as pompous or simply ridiculous, I have a good feeling that you would not. Take care.