Breaking an engagement is a difficult thing to do. It’s more than a break-up. It’s public. Families are involved. Plans have been made. Hundreds of people must be notified. It’s awful. Besides losing the guy you love, you also must give up the dreams you had for your future together and on top of this, you often lose the most beautiful piece of jewelry you have ever worn.
There was good article on this topic in the New York Times the other day. In the article, Leticia Baldridge, who was Jackie Kennedy’s White House Social Secretary says, “The person who breaks the engagement is responsible for making good. If the woman breaks it, she should send the ring back immediately. If it is the man, he should say, ‘Of course you keep the ring.’ Should the ring be a family heirloom,” Ms. Baldrige added, “the woman should return it. But then he should buy her another piece of jewelry or simply give her a credit at a jewelry shop. Nice people do that.”
Apparently, my ex-fiance wasn’t “nice people”, and maybe I wasn’t either. My ex-fiance and I stay in touch, and are on good terms now, but things weren’t always so civil. There was a battle royale over the gorgeous 3-carat diamond solitaire he used to propose to me with champagne in the courtyard of the historic Blair House in the spring of 2004. Through this experience, I learned more than I wanted to know about the law surrounding an engagement ring, and how it varies by state. The good news is that my ex-fiance and I are now on good terms. In the end, that is worth more than any diamond.
– Miss A