Kate Moss for David Yurman.
Dear Miss A,
My boyfriend of almost two years broke up with me almost a month ago. I’ve been wearing a really beautiful David Yurman bracelet that he gave me as a christmas gift, and sometimes during the day at work, when I notice it, I get really sad thinking about what could have been. It reminds me of how perfect things were last Christmas when he came down South to spend the holiday with me and my family. Honestly, I thought he was the one I would marry. Should I not wear it? Should I sell it on Ebay?
Still Not Over Him
Dear “Still Not Over Him”,
Honey, I am so sorry about your break up. I know how badly it hurts. You will just need a lot of time to pass. Take some time for yourself, and set out to accomplish some goals at work, at the gym, or personally. Focus on you, and make yourself happy. Think about what may have gone wrong, and what you did to contribute to the problems.
If it weren’t for the jewelry from our ex’s, we ladies would have very little jewelry. Yes, we can buy our own jewelry, and some of us are lucky enough to inherit or be given jewelry from our family, but it’s the jewelry from men who love us that we treasure the most. Each year, men shopping for their wives, girlfriends, or even mistresses, spend more money on jewelry than women do!
I would advise against it, but if you really think you want to sell your bracelet, there is a new website called Ex-Boyfriend Jewelry which was created especially for women who want to sell jewelry given to them by former boyfriends. It’s sort of interesting, because each piece comes with a story about why it’s up for sale. I suppose that this might be cathartic to some, and it’s a cute idea, but I think you would make more money selling on Ebay, which is a well-known site with much higher traffic.
I would advise you not to sell your bracelet either of these websites, or anywhere for that matter. You will never get the full value of the bracelet, and I am assuming you really like the design of the piece. You just need time to get over the sentimental feelings you have associated with the bracelet. In a few months, you’ll grow stronger and it won’t be as painful to see the pieces your ex-boyfriend purchased for you.
Economic times are tough! You may have seen my post a few days ago about these being hard times for High-End Girlfriends. It will take you time to find another good guy who you love and who loves you in return. Not all boyfriends are big on giving gifts of jewelry…believe me, I know some. So keep those pieces you have received as they will mean something to you in the future, but not in a sad, upsetting way. And even if you are some sort of “Wonder Woman” and find a boyfriend by the holidays, men will be spending less this holiday season! Keep what jewelry you have. In time, you’ll be glad that you did. You will feel like you deserve something good to make up for all the hurt that man has caused you!
– Miss A
Andrea Rodgers is a Dating & Relationship Expert for HealthCentral’s Sexual Health Connection. Email questions to firstname.lastname@example.org.