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Andrea Rodgers is the Founder of Miss A (AskMissA.com), which covers the intersection of charity and lifestyle for 1.5 million unique readers annually. Based in Washington, DC, Miss A has a presence in 21 U.S. cities with 30 editors and hundreds of writer. Andrea was inspired after 9/11, and became heavily involved in Washington’s charity circuit in an effort to give back to the community. At the core of the Miss A brand is Andrea’s personal belief in the positive power of volunteering and charity — not only to benefit those less fortunate, but to improve the individual, business or brand that gives their time, money and energy to a cause. AskMissA.com serves as a technological platform which connects editors, writers and readers around this core belief and shines a spotlight on the best nonprofits, charity events, cause marketing campaigns and philanthropic & stylish people, businesses and brands to inspire others to get involved.

Andrea Rodgers is a member of the Vogue 100, a hand-selected group by Vogue magazine of 100 influential decision makers and opinion leaders across the country known for their distinctive taste in fashion & culture. She has been featured in Vogue, W and Allure, CNN, Fox News, NOS Dutch Public Broadcasting, TV Tokyo, France 24, Alhurra, USA Today, Washington Post & Politico.

Magnifying Your Foibles

 

 

Miss A,
I’m dating a really great guy but I’m freaked out. I can’t believe that I am feeling so self-conscious–it’s as though I think I’m in a bad teen romance flick, and that there’s an audience somewhere covering their faces and groaning in embarrassment on my behalf. I hear the things that come out of my mouth, and then I hear the way they must sound and suddenly all my little habits or mannerisms or overused turns of phrase annoy even me.

Then there are all of the tiny little relationship mistakes I make . . . I’m starting to be afraid to talk at all, as I can’t seem to stop myself from being an over-eager cliche. What does this mean? Am I just meant to be single?

Molly

Dear Molly,

No, Honey, you are not meant to be single. None of us are. We’re meant to find a mate and procreate. You haven’t mentioned how your “tiny relationship mistakes”, habits, mannerisms or word choice is causing trouble in your relationship or bothering your boyfriend.  It doesn’t sound like your relationship has a problem. 

It seems like you are going through a rough time personally. You are hyper self-conscious, and second guessing your every action.  This is not healthy.  Whether you are in a relationship or not, you should feel comfortable being yourself.  You want your boyfriend and friends to love you for who you really are.  Don’t judge yourself by what others might think of what you say or do, especially in a private setting.  Just be you. You are being too hard on yourself, and it’s not good for you to keep feeling this way. I think that you should see a professional for counseling and perhaps some anti-anxiety medicine.

– Miss A

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